No problem, thank you so much for your help! I am not very tech-savvy so it is entirely possible that I did something wrong in the install process. I downloaded from SHS and am running the Beamdog BG2EE version of the game.
Two last questions if you don't mind:
1) If I remove Fade from the party, talk to Renal, then add her back, will that have any consequences for my progress in the romance?
2) If I try to uninstall the Fade mod entirely and do a fresh install, can I continue with my save where I left off?
If not then I will forfeit my rewards and pretend I never did the Mae'var quest. Not the end of the world!