Most modders do not use their personal email accounts for modding-related communication and they sure as heck aren't going to be giving out their telephone info. If the modder has lost interest in modding to the extent that they haven't even logged into the forum in months, they aren't checking their gaming email account, either. How would anyone get through? Psychics?
Is there any chance you could be more hostile?
I am sure that several modders have gotten friendly, maybe even in real-life.
Is it that unreasonable to think that someone still might be in contact with her?
If it is, then I am so very sorry - but there's no reason to be all self-righteous about it.