@subtledoctor: why not looking for a solution inside your mod that could be less restrective. The more you use 2da the more you must look for all items, restrictions, characters, kits that will loose compatibility. You will make new rules - the old SCS and BP problem - so your mod should be installed as last as possible.
I'd be happy to do that, if I knew how or had enough information. But I don't know how Sandrah's items are coded, and I don't know how or why they become unusable. And you might have noticed, the person who actually has that information, who actually coded them, has contributed no actual, valuable information to this discussion. There are clearly people who want to use both mods together; Roxanne's response has been, for instance, to hide FnP in non-obvious places in the BWS program to make it harder for people to use it. Or to fill the forums with small lies like "changes on a daily basis" when the mod actually has not been touched in several months.
I would like to figure out these problems and solve them so players can play the game how they want. You can see I have spent lots of effort toward this, creating a chunk of code for modders like Roxanne to use to ensure compatibility, giving hypotheses and advice and actual code here. But I get rebuffed or insulted. Meh, not the end of the world, I have pretty thick skin and giong on the internet these days means you're going to get trolled at some point. But I want to make this stuff work, and I don't have enough information to make it work, and someone in a position to help says "nah, I don't feel like helping." That's extremely frustrating.