First loving Darian so far and he is a good match for my elf

But I just have one concern at the moment along with the romance, I have Anomen in my party because I like a bit of rival fighting hehe.
Anomen has recently been knighted and then I get his lovetalk about how he thanks me for all my help etc etc. and his RomanceActive global changes to 2.
Darian's at this stage is at 4, which from what i know is friends and waiting on the scene in the forest. I sped up time a bit and had a few more Darian talks and Anomen love talks but didn't get a Darian scene at any point - it might be because I was still being nice to Anomen?
I also read in the FAQ there was a point where you could choose between them, let one of them down etc but this doesn't seem to come up at any point, but is this again because Darian is only in friendship stage?
Is it ok that I have Anomen in global stage of 2 for the romance and still be able to get Darian into full romance by end of SOA?
I was thinking of just kicking Anomen out, as I have a save just before he does his talk I said above and then rejoin him so it kills the romance and carry on with Darian, but would like to let Anomen down than just kick.
Hope it makes sense
Thanks for help in advance.