What he said!Thanks, Kulyok, I'll add that into the next beta. Much appreciated!
I'm thinking the only way for the PC to make it perfectly clear that "no means no" and she's not interested is to insult Haer'Dalis' pride or beliefs. And I'm not talking something childish or minor like "Your Doomguard ways are just stupid!" Something more spiteful, though I haven't had my coffee yet and can't think of an example. Aside from blatant rebuffs, I love the idea of him pursuing a not-quite-sure PC even if she's with someone else. Or even a PC who is sure and says "No, I love _____, I don't want your attentions." He'd be good for a fling whenever the PC needs a stress relief.
So far, my plotting is leading me down three different LT tracks. One for a more reserved/shy/reluctant/disinterested PC who HD must pursue. This could be anywhere from a PC already in a relationship, to a PC who is very Aerie-esque. Two would be for the PC who wants to pursue him, and I can easily see HD playing hard to get depending on how hard she pushes. Three is something I'm still debating, but it would be for a bard PC. Or, rather, a like-minded bard PC who has similar ideals/desires. A kindred spirits type of thing. Which one of these tracks the PC takes could be determined by the first dozen LTs (early stage) and how she reacts to HD's questioning, etc.
I'm glad I posted my rambling thoughts because I'm getting a better perspective on this. And I want to write it even more now. I need to do some deep poking into his past and see what I can dig up.